I had breakfast with friends I only see a few times a year. We discuss life, families and the pursuit of happiness. This group of ladies share a more extreme religious view then I do, so our topics are always interesting and somewhat educational for me. This breakfast produced the following story.
As told to the group. My son is 44 years old. He lives in another city. He has never been married. He barely earns a living. It is enough for him to get by. He tells me he has met a young woman. She is 23 years old and he believes she is interested in him. He has been wrong in the past. She is marriage and baby minded. This is a terrible predicament.
I was listening carefully. I was thinking how happy this mother must be that her son had possibly found someone to share his life with, and possibly start a family with. This was not the case. She was worried that her son could not afford a wife. He could not afford children, and he lived to far for her to offer support. She was going to advise him to run, not walk away from this relationship.
I was shocked, and dismayed. Don't you wish him happiness I asked? This won't make him happy she said, trouble that is all this is! I did not stay at breakfast much longer. Now I was distressed. Why did a 44 year old man need his mother's permission to move forward in his life? Why would a mother discourage growth and the chance for love for her child? What do you think? Write a reply and tell me.